Welcome to the real world – We’re all grown-ups here… Let’s just say it… “Real shit happens and those hard lessons nudge us to do better…” S.L.Zapata
What defines you?
- It’s not your hair and makeup
- It’s not your job and career
- It’s not your business or entrepreneurship
- It’s not your family or friends
- It’s not even the way you vote… that defines you –
So then what defines you?
The word DEFINE originates from Latin dēfīnīre to set bounds to, from fīnīre to finish
In other words, it means what you finish…
Bottom-line what defines you? It’s what you do or It’s what you don’t do – pretty simple.
And this is how your reparative solutions will make life better… Better at WTF you may be asking?
Well, I invite you to keep reading… Or, if you’ve lost interest – no worries
Either way, I am going to bring my tiny knife to the keyboard and finish what I started writing… because this blog post has been idling way to damn long on my laptop.
So, here we are September 2020 with all sorts of things that have become FUBAR.
[FUBAR is a WWII acronym for fucked up beyond all recognition]
Here is my FUBAR checklist for many shituations we’ve all been exposed to:
COVID19 pandemic,
riots,
political fucking finger-pointing,
social distancing, online meetings, and virtual events: baby showers, funerals, weddings
virtual insanity {like the 1996 song from Jamiroquai) shit, they knew something was up
and told us in a song – but hell, we didn’t listen –
Add and stir black lives matter –
ALL PEOPLE matter dammit!
And we get the shit show recipe for what the fuck matters anymore?
Oh and don’t forget to add a splash of anxiety, depression, economic struggle, and a clogged toilet.
There are certain things we can control and cannot control.
I can control about 22 things-
Recently, I made this list to keep my own ass in line. I printed it and it is tapped on my bathroom mirror.
[Get your free printable I created 22 THINGS I CAN CONTROL] 100% free – calm down – I’m not even asking for your email – just sharing some love.
Ready? Let’s go!
How your reparative solutions will make life fucking better?
#1] Get Off Auto-Pilot Living & Take fucking control of yourself.
You find yourself on ‘auto-pilot’ just going through the motions and wondering why the hell you can’t get shit done. This happened to me in July and August…
Have you ever been in a funk of not being able to focus yet you have too many amazeballs ideas, unfinished work, and projects banging hard on the back door you thought you slammed shut?
Can you relate? Me too…
OK, so here’s the reparative solution that I discovered and how I fixed this problem.
[…remember, we’re either creating problems or creating solutions]
I decided to go analog – not digital – this is how I get my projects completed.
I have ADD. I have Dyslexia. I have Depression. These mother-fucking things don’t define who I am.
They are part of my life and I have learned how to work hard to create what I want – even with tears rolling down my cheeks – I am my own little warrior.
A. Get a cheap spiral notebook – old school – No digital notes.
Here is why:
Remember… Get outta the Auto-Pilot living.
The reason for doing the handwritten work is because dude, it’s not online!
It won’t crash?
There are no fucking questions asking if you allow cookies?
Yeah, I allow cookies – in my mouth – homemade chocolate chip melty – hot from the oven. Hee! Hee!
Oh, and there is no pop-up email login or ads in your old school notebook…
Just your brain.
Just Pen.
Just paper.
Get your ass up one or two hours earlier… Yes, this is work. This is how we get our shit done.
In the morning with your coffee, give yourself 15 minutes to write down what you want and what you don’t want.
Make it a shortlist – like 5 items.
This list can be for your unfinished projects or new endeavors [it’s your list, not mine]
Do this every single day – Yeah, not just once a week – Doing this daily keeps you accountable to yourself
B. Next, close your cheap notebook and get off your ass and do the list.
Figure out what needs to be done, deleted, added, redesigned – –
when to say yes or no, and how much research you still need
[NOTE: don’t get too caught up in the research and then you never get your amazing shit started]
Yeah, so this is the answer to“What defines you? How your Reparative Solutions Make Life Fucking Better.”
No sugar coating. No magic strategy.
Action beats hope.
Action surpasses wishing
We either do things or not…
It will take late nights and/or early mornings…
It will take working weekends…
You want something you’ve never had? You gotta do something you’ve never done.
This is the simplest way to describe any and all work I have ever dreamed about, created, failed, restarted, and completed…
If I disappointed you in how this would end – well, maybe you’re just not hungry enough to work hard, be patient, put in the time, research, and most importantly – take the fucking action.
Now, if you can’t take the actions you want due to a health or medical situation – that is 100% understandable –
Have you ever heard of doing BIG things in SMALL ways? Taking small actions daily will add up to a reparative solution(s).
Don’t get caught up on how long it will take you
[unless you’re dead-set on a deadline – then, by all means, go get it done]
It’s not selfish to distance yourself from people who are not on board with what you want to accomplish.
If this is too painful to do, well, let’s look at pain, both physical and emotional – – and what the fuck it really teaches us.
Your brain snags on details that might help you make future choices, explains Linda Levine, director of the Cognition and Emotion Laboratory at the University of California, Irvine. In simple terms: pain teaches us lessons.
And this is how many of us learn about life
…and about who we are and what we are made of.
That’s all I have tonight.
Take what you need from what you read and leave the rest. Share this if you think it will help another person.
Cheers to your Middle Finger Happiness!
Big ass hugs, xoxo
Sharon
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