Life is more than precious; it’s irreplaceable. We only get one time here. So many people waste their life just humming through on auto-pilot never realizing they are here to create and make the most of their short time being alive. We’re dead a lot longer than we’re alive.
Young and old people have this in common:
They live life in ‘response’ mode. Always dealing with shituations, problems, drama, fall-outs, getting accustomed to lacking, and they never really figure out how to live their best life ever.
Let’s replace the word ever with increasingly
What we increasingly do is how we do anything and everything.
When we’re young we waste our time hanging out with the wrong people or in bad relationships. Why? Well, most likely we ignore the red flags of being around the wrong people and we have not discovered who we really are and what our full potential is in order to create a great life.
Is it because we’re too blind to see how the world really is? Do we fall under the pressure of social-culture and social-media? Do we listen to what the world says we’re supposed to be doing while we’re young?
How many times have you been asked when are you going to get married and have children? That is the fucking dumbest question; you know why? Because it’s none of other people’s damn business that’s why.
Marriage and kids will either damage or celebrate your life. Look, if you don’t have your shit together, don’t get married and don’t have children.
Young people spend their time partying, eating junk food, and responding to drama in their lives rather than reading, building and creating new skill sets, building healthy habits, and investing in themselves.
Old people spend their time regretting shit they should’ve done or should’ve said. They no longer have time on their side – in their youth, they increasingly squandered their time.
All our lives we are increasingly building or destroying our strong circle road map. This strong circle road map is called experience. Our lives don’t come with a how-to manual. Our lives come with experiences – good and bad.
Are you increasingly wasting your one-life or are you making the most of it? Here are some ways to tell [think of these 6 signs as the tap on your forehead you need].
1. When you wake up, you don’t get out of bed quickly.
Do you reach for your cell phone and scroll through your social media, reply to stupid text messages, watch videos that are not going to improve who you are? Assuming you spend half an hour to an hour dilly-dallying around on your phone before getting out of bed, you are increasingly living a wasted life.
Badassery people don’t have time to waste like this first thing in the morning. Grab a coffee and lace up your running shoes; go for a quick run or fast-paced walk. Wake up your brain and body with an energetic morning and you’ll take on the day vs. the day taking on you.
2. You worry what others think of you
High achievers are too busy getting shit done to worry what others think of them. High achievers may worry about what people who matter think of them, but they don’t fucking worry about what their friends, family, or pop culture thinks. They are too busy getting things done.
If you frequently worry about what your friends, family, peers, or pop culture thinks of you, you are increasingly living a wasted life.
Instead of doing what others approve of, create your personal road map and badassery manual for living your best life… be true to who you are. If you haven’t figured out who you are?… get to it. Tick Tick – time waits for nobody sugar lips.
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3. You spend more than an hour a day on aimless activities [a.k.a. stupid shit]
Some activities are randomly and aimlessly, done because they are daily gratifying habits… ike:
watching TV or movies
spending time on social media
playing video games
Look, we should take in small doses, no more than an hour or two per day on our daily aimless yet gratifying activities because they are a necessary part of decompressing in our busy world.
Any more than that, though is bullshit, and you’re going beyond decompressing into living an increasingly wasted life.
People with a purpose don’t spend too long doing these sorts of things because they are aware that every hour sucked away by aimless activities is another hour they will never get back.
4. You don’t feel ready for bed at the end of each day
People whose days are brimming with purposeful activities feel tired at the end of the day. Whether it’s mental work or physical work, purposeful activity uses up all your energy and leaves you ready to go to bed each day.
On the other hand, when you aren’t making the most of your life, you aren’t tired at the end of the day. You are, quite literally, not making the most of your energy and you’re living an increasingly wasted life.
5. You spend more of your time thinking and planning than doing
If you spend more of your time daydreaming, planning, or thinking about the future than you do working to bring about that future; you’re living an increasingly wasted life.
People who make something of themselves don’t sit around daydreaming about what the future may be like. People, who make something of themselves, pick a goal for the future and then work hard to make that goal happen. Someone who spends all their time daydreaming is not someone who spends all their time doing.
6. You live with clutter; declutter your space
Most messiness is a direct result of having too much [shit] stuff. Everything you own is something you have to keep clean and put away.
The more stuff you have to keep clean and put away, the harder it is to stay on top of cleaning.
Getting rid of some of that [shit] stuff reduces the amount of cleaning you have to do forever. Decluttering is even backed by science: one study found people who work in cluttered environments were not as productive as those who worked in clean ones.
Living in a messy cluttered home can also trigger anxiety and depression. So, get rid of shit that you don’t need. [insert smile here.]
Any decluttering you do today is cleaning you never have to do again.
Life is too short to be living an increasingly cluttered and wasted life.
Are you increasingly wasting your one-life or are you making the most of it?
Life is what we make of it.
There will always be some days better than others.
There will always be a time when you think about what you shoulda done… That is simply a life lesson. Learn. Move on. Rinse and repeat.
As we wrap up 2019, I want to say thank you for reading my bat-shit crazy blog posts, buying my books, attending my workshops and speaking engagements, listening to my baby-brand new podcast MiddleFingerHappiness, and simply supporting me by being here.
I aim to continue grinding and improving as a writer… Pull more ‘life’ experiences out of my coat-pocket and share any great new valuable shit I learn – that will inspire you.
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XOXO,
Sharon
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