A guide to rediscovering your future-self
We’ve all heard the saying, “It’s just one day at a time…“
I disagree. I say, “It’s one commitment at a time.”
Hell, I will take it even further… “It’s a conscious choice, decision, and selection at a time.”
All of us experience things in life that will never get repaired. For example, take a look around at all the broken humans working.
How do they keep going even when they’re down or depressed?
How do they pick their asses back up after falling hard?
You know how? They say, “Fuck this shituation…” – – and they psychologically commit to just doing what they have to do in order to live their best life. This is not for delicate people.
It’s happened to me.
It’s happened to you.
Some of the smallest things have now become the biggest things that progressively rescue us as we coast along with our commitment(s).
Like we’re all on auto-pilot; simply going through the motions…
[Not the emotions. Not the feelings]
We all know it’s unhealthy to continually stick around stressful shituations; yet many of us function in this sorta condition(s).
Would you like to learn a way to figure out how to work at your job with tight deadlines? Increasing demands. Rising expectations in your personal success can be great, but it’s not without stress.
Would you like to know how your individual journey to live a life where you can manage stressful as fuck persons, places, and things?
If you noticed, I wrote the word manage – I did not say get rid of.
Life is always going to have some level of stress.
Stress cannot be eliminated – it can be managed.
Let’s examine Commitment, the trait of determined fixity of purpose. In other words… the habit of getting shit done.
Let’s take a peek-a-boo at Resilience, psychologically speaking… it’s the ability to adapt to hardship and other significant stress.
Let’s take a look inside Personal Boundaries, geographically speaking… these are the limits to keep things apart, away, and separate from uncontrollable stressors.
Commitment + Resilience + Personal Boundaries = a guide to your future-self
When the pressure is on, it’s easy to feel like we’re falling behind or not accomplishing anything.
What really gets hard as fuck…is when we have to choose to deal with toxic family, persons, places, and things. This sort of pressure can be experienced both in our jobs, our work, and in our personal relationships.
When we stop, look and listen to the number of constant stressors, setbacks, and fuckups from having to deal with other people’s drama, it can crush our focus and motivation to do anything with clarity.
Redirecting negative thoughts and turning them into positives can bring a division of labor. This is not for the weak. It takes practice to ‘observe’ ourselves.
Receiving a phone call from your grown-up son that he is in jail for the 4th time… can fuck your entire day, week, month… hell even your next 8 months.
Unfortunately, you have to remove the stressors.
And sometimes leaving toxic loved ones alone is the answer.
When we’re constantly reacting to a toxic person’s behavior…
When we’re focusing on them, what they do, where they are, etc…
This will suck our energy outta our own lives.
Do not take on the worry, guilt, or shame – – when you are trying to communicate with this toxicity.
Our lives will become stressful, hard to repair, and we can become physically sick.
We can become as toxic as they are because we’re wrapped up in their shituations…
When faced with difficulty, resilient people recover more quickly.
It’s not because this is easy to do for resilient people; it’s because they have made a conscious commitment to live their best life.
Resilient mother fuckers look at setbacks as temporary and move forward despite uncertainty.
Keeping their conscious commitment to themselves, resilient people use their determined fixity of purpose. In other words… the habit of getting shit done.
Resilient people also know they cannot control other people’s actions or lack of actions.
Research finds that resilient people excel in problem-solving, positive communication, emotional intelligence, and emotion regulation.
What is your emotional regulator?
Do you know how to use it when dealing with stressful persons, places, and things?
WTF [what the fuck] is a regulator you may be asking?
A regulator is a system designed to maintain energy levels. So, how do you maintain your energy levels when handling stress?
Emotions signal threats and rewards.
Stop and take a look at your day… Practice observing yourself –
This will help you shift and stop being on ‘auto-pilot’
Much like a compass that guides our asses in the right direction, emotions have the power to guide us to the right actions. {some people tune it and some people tune out to this guide} – It’s called listening to your conscience [inner feeling or voice viewed as acting as a guide to the rightness or wrongness of one’s behavior.]
It’s crucial to be smart and gauge when to trust emotional triggers and act on them, and when not to… in other words, don’t be a dumb fuck when you need to understand how to regulate or control your emotions so you could use them in the best way possible.
Our emotional regulators: to be used at work, in our personal lives, and in situations where we need to calm our anger.
WTF? Anger? – yeah, that’s the misadventure that shows up when shit hits the fan.
Every day, we face 100’s of emotion-provoking stimuli, and most of them require some action or response from our end.
Again, here is where we use our commitment to ourselves.
It is only natural for the mind to get hooked into some negative contemplation.
It is also only natural for the mind to say, fuck this – and unmindfully ignore emotions after getting bombarded with so many stimuli every day [a.k.a. shit-shows].
So, let’s wrap this up Guide to Rediscovering Your Future-Self in a to-go-box because we’ve all got awesome shit to do:
Commitment + Resilience + Personal Boundaries
Practice observing yourself – This will help you shift and stop being on ‘auto-pilot’
RESILENCE: Protect your energy [we are all made of energy]
PERSONAL BOUNDARIES – Not everyone is invited to your world. Don’t let the wrong people or things suck the juice outta ya… [got it?]
EMOTIONAL REGULATORS – know how your personal system is designed and how it works to maintain your energy levels
Notice your behavior – practice mediation – your thoughts are powerful
Cheers! xoxo
Sharon
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