Don’t Worry About Being the Favorite One

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A friend of mine told me, “Hey, I really love your new book!”

I said, “Thank you!”

We talked about what she liked and how it helped her. The conversation was awesome.

Then… she made a comment, “One of my favorite writers is Eckhart Tolle.”

I am going to share with you how I’ve learned that asking questions is a great skill to acquire.

No need to blow up, get pissed-off, or lose it just because… You’re not the favorite.

The favorite author

The favorite friend

The favorite child

The favorite podcaster

The favorite “fill in the blank here”

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When you ask questions, you’ll gain the upper hand in a situation and more importantly, you’ll learn something that will take you to the next level in your craft… in your skills.

 

This is how I am wired:

I look at the human condition and do my best to make sense out of the world around me.  When I do this… it allows me to transcend [rise above] the limits of my ordinary thinking and comprehension.

 

So, I asked my friend why is Eckart Tolle was her favorite writer and how has he inspired her the most?”

These simple questions allow my friend to open up and teach me about another writer.

No need for me to get defensive because I was not her favorite writer.

I got news for you… and for me.  Don’t worry about being the favorite one!

 

As a writer, you always need to have in mind that your words should illuminate purpose.

Your purpose could be your will to share knowledge, deliver a message, or whatever your particular interpretation of purpose for writing.

 

At the end of the day, a great writer thinks like a great marketer.

She/He poses questions like:

• Does my writing make sense?
• Am I communicating my message to the right audience?
• Is there any room for improvement?

 

This is why monitoring your work becomes important if you want to continue polishing your skill(s), continue identifying any points of friction that are open to improvement.

This allows you to evolve your writing style in unprecedented [never before known] ways.

 

This doesn’t just pertain to writers… This post could be for anyone who wants to excel in what they are currently working on.

So, next time you come across a conversation where you learn that someone likes a different ‘creative’ than you… don’t get defensive.

Use the ‘counter script’

What is the ‘counter script’?

It is simply asking questions of your own.

This way you’ll buy time instead of lose time.

You’ll learn how to improve and excel in your craft

Cheers!

xoxo,

Sharon

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